My Child is Lying to Me, What Do I Do?

Remember back then when you were a child and you had to lie to get out of trouble? While it may have saved you a great deal of whopping from your parents back then, did you really feel good about it, looking back?

 Fast forward to today. Imagine if your child pulled something similar on you and they refuse to admit their accused mistake. It’s a real pain in the neck, isn’t it?

Lying is wrong, and it is important to emphasize to your child that what they are doing will greatly impact their actions in the long run. It will make them irresponsible and unable to face the consequences of their actions.

Read on below for five tips on how to deal with your children.

Emphasize the importance of honesty

Talking to your children early on about the value of honesty is essential. Instilling into them that words have actual value, will make them be more careful with what they say and will, therefore, be more inclined, to tell the truth.

There are many situations that require honesty in order to be successful. Relationships with people, for example, require a certain amount of trust between the two parties. People, in general, prefer being around trustworthy people than around dishonest people.

Let them know that telling the truth reduces the consequences  

Nothing stops children from telling the truth than knowing they will get punished from telling it. For example, if your child accidentally broke a vase and they blame it on the cat, it’s mostly because they’re afraid of what you’ll punish them for it.

Instead of threatening them with the punishments that they’ll face after their mistake, praise them for telling the truth and tell them that it makes them more trustworthy. You may also reduce the consequence that you’re about to give to them. For example, instead of banning them phone usage for a week, you could reduce it to just a day.

Give them the good old pep talk

Another way to get your kids to open up to you and tell the truth is by telling them that you don’t expect perfection and that accidents or other unfortunate events can happen any time. Tell them that you will still love them no matter whatever mistake they have committed. Reassuring your child will give them confidence and assurance that nothing bad will happen to them.

Giving this moment to your child will also allow them to reflect on their mistakes and may then lead them to tell you the truth.

Don’t call them a liar

Nobody really likes being called a liar. It not only destroys your credibility but people would not want to associate themselves with dishonest or untrustworthy people.

This is the same case with children. They may find it harder to open up to their parents because their parents will doubt the credibility of their story.

To add, this may make them feel bad about themselves thus lowering their self-esteem and in the worst-case scenario, may turn them into a compulsive liar.

Walk the talk

Parents being the first teachers to their children would do well to set a good example to them. Showing your children that you mean whatever you say and that you always tell the truth will mold them into being honest and trustworthy as well.

Showing your children that you are able to take full responsibility for your actions and are ready to face the consequences will show them that you are a role model of a parent full of integrity and confidence.

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